Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Kudos to the Americans

I recently took a trip to the States for work (for those of you that don’t know, I live in Toronto, Canada).  So when I told people where I was going, I got the typical reaction (mine was the same initially actually… But now, I have a total different outlook).  Ok, so where did I go?  New Jousyey.  For those of you that don’t speak the way I try to write, that actually said New Jersey.. with a Jersey accent.
So what’s your first thought?  Snookie or Jersey Shore?  Mine was Jersey Shore… then Snook’s.  But after that, the thoughts that went through my head were of everything that people told me of Americans that weren’t from the South.  Basically, that American’s are rude.  Ok, no big deal.  I can deal with rude.  I deal with rude every day in Canada (cashier’s ringing you through without saying a single word, such as “Hi”, or “Your total is…”, or how about when people go through a door and don’t look over their shoulder to hold it in case someone might be behind them, or how about when you let follow driver in front of you and they fail to give the courtesy wave?  I could go on and on…) But I digress, American’s are rude.  Right.  Got it.

So cue to the part where we’re driving through NJ in a 16-foot truck when we see a Burger King which has never looked as good as it did in that moment.  The girl I’m travelling with is driving the truck and I guess in her rush to eat some delicious awful Burger King, she jumps out of the truck and locks the keys inside.  With the engine running.  Oh boy.. What to do?  Ask someone around to help? No way.  Cause they’re rude, right?  That’s when we see that a cop has thankfully pulled someone over to the side of the road, so I run over to him and let him know the situation.  He tells us that it’s no problem at all, and he’ll send the fire crew right over.  What?!  Amazing!  I LOVE firefighters.  So hot. So cue the lovely NJ firefighters that are there to save foreign damsels in distress.  Kudos to you firemen.


Let’s fast forward about 5 hours.  We’re at our venue, have unloaded our truck, and are setting up for our event.  Then we get the call that we’ve picked up the wrong setup.  Great.  So we pack everything back up, load the truck and wait for the guy who has our set to come and drop it off.  He shows up… with a 24foot “transport” truck.  Fact.  See below:



Once we get over the sheer enormity of this new truck we have to drive (fully equipped with the “pull-down” cord for the horn and steering wheel that is designed for a school bus mind you), we start to set up the “new” set.
It’s now 1:30am and we’ve been travelling, working, loading/unloading trucks since 6am.  We could not be happier to get in this monstrosity, drive to the hotel, and get a couple hours of sleep before launching the next morning.  BUT as our luck would have it, the truck won’t start.  What?! How is the battery dead?  WHERE is the battery?!  So as my co-worker and I are staring at this truck in complete bewilderment, a guy that works there comes out to get in his car and drive home after a long day.  “You guys all finished for today” he yells from across the parking lot.  “Well, ya, but our truck won’t start.  You wouldn’t happen to know the number to a heavy tow in NJ would you?” we say back.  At this, the wonderful fellow who I only know as Abraham, comes running over, opens the hood, fiddles around, tries starting it again, but with no luck. (Now, our hopes are crushed.  Because up until this point it really looked like he knew what he was doing).  But he redeems himself instantly by calling his dad (who he said drove trucks all his life), and gets some pointers.  Amazing!   Long story short, he got the truck running!  AND, he even drove in front of us all the way to our hotel to make sure that it didn’t stall while we were idling. 
Let me just say, that this is beyond all hopes I would ever have of a person going completely out of their way at 1:30am.  By the time we’re back at our hotel it’s almost 3am.  Unreal.  Kudos to you Abraham.


Let’s fast forward again a couple days.  The event is over, and we’ve got a full day of travel ahead of us.  We leave our hotel with lots of time to hit the mall on the way to the airport to take full advantage of the American dollar and the stores we don’t have in Canada.  But the truck won’t start.  Again.  After a call to the rental agency, we got the truck up and running an hour and half later.  Which really puts us behind on the whole shopping trip plan.  THEN, we get a call from one of the guys that worked the event.  He tells us not to worry, he’ll come pick us up from the rental agency once we drop everything off, and take us to the mall, then to the airport.  Seriously?!  But the airport is not exactly close.. and the mall may be out of the way, and we may not even have time.  “Not to worry” he said.  “You guys were great this week; let me be your chauffer – you run into the mall, get what you have to get, and I’ll wait right out here.  And forget about a $70 taxi from the airport.  Last time I checked, we were in a recession, right?”  I was able to grab a stellar LBD, and we made it to the airport with 20 minutes to spare before boarding.  Kudos to you Erin. 

In conclusion, I feel like I need to state that New Jersey is NOT all about Jersey Shore and Snooki (and by the way, I was told multiple times that the only people that are actually from Jersey is J-Wow and Ronnie), but there are some VERY nice people there.  Very nice Americans.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Yes.. I went there... And I'm not going back...

Ok, so this is probably going to turn out to one of the longest posts I’ve written, but I assure you, it is one of the best.

Last night I went on 14 blind dates.  Yes, you read correctly.. 14.  Where do I find 14 blind dates you ask?  Why, speed dating of course.  So let’s back this train up a bit and give some background.  A couple people had previously mentioned to me that speed dating could be one of my challenges that I could take on, and who knows.. I could maybe even meet someone.  Now to be honest, my thoughts on speed dating can pretty much be summed up by the picture below:


It turns out, the venue was really nice, the lighting was soft, and it wasn’t just a line of people across the table from each other.  There was a lounge and each “couple” had a table or couch with a number on it.  Basically, the women stay seated and the men move from table to table.  How it works is at the beginning of the night the host gives you a card and tells you to write down the people’s names that you meet and then when your 6 minutes is up with each person, you tick ‘yes’ or ‘no’ beside their name.  If two people both say ‘yes’ to each other, then they’re set up to have more face time together. 
So now that we all know how this works, let’s get on with it….  First, our outfits:  Hot right??




Yes, I went with a friend.  Was not gonna attempt this one solo.





For date #1 through #3 I was still kind of getting my bearings and figuring out how to answer the question “so what do you do in your spare time?”… Like really? Nothing!  I’d rather diet than go to the gym, I’d rather be sleeping than playing any sports, and I’d rather have a glass of wine than take up jogging.  Ahh I digress… So for the first 3 dates, I don’t really remember anything specific about them… Starting with #4 is when I decided that I could not continue without writing something down about them to let the whole world know just what I had to sit through…  Take a look below for highlights…

#4
Me: So what do you for a living?
Him: Well, I just got off probation.
Me: Pardon? (get me the eff outta here now!!)
Him: Well….I was on probation for 3 months
Me: (Starting to clue in).. You mean, the first 3 month probationary period at your job??
Him: Yea, that’s what I meant

#5 – Student. Enough said.

#6 – Student.  Again.  Seriously, what students go speed dating?  Answer that question, then put a visual to it.  That’s what he looked like.

#7 – The Russian.  Drinking straight vodka. 

#8
Me: Hi, my name is Kristy, nice to meet you
Him: Hi, good to meet you too.  What are your expectations?
Me:  Excuse me? My expectations for what? Tonight?
Him: Sure. What are your expectations for tonight?
Me: Nothing.  (given that the past 42 minutes have been a complete waste of my life)

#9 – The gamer.  For real.  He designs video games for a living.     …next!

#10
Him: (as he’s writing my name on his sheet) Geez, this pen has been very tempermental all night.
Me: Ahh.. ya, they can sometimes be a bit tricky! (wtf?)  Did ya get that working there?  Great.
Him: So what do you do?
Me: I tell him, then ask him the same question.
Him:  Well, I have a great job!  I just got promoted to a supervisory position and now I have people working under me. 
Me: Congrats.  Sounds good.  So what exactly is it that you do?
Him:  I work as a security guard.  At an apartment building.  I tried to become a police officer and went to college for it, but when I wrote the tests, I failed them.  Twice.  But it’s not so bad, cause I love my job now.

#11 – Works in the IT department and rarely gets out.  (his words, not mine)

#12 - #13 – These guys weren’t too bad… Just pretty normal.. but nothing to write home blog about

#14Let me preface this by saying that this actually really was my last date.  I couldn’t have planned it better myself.
Me:  So do you do this kinda thing often?
Him: Oh yeah, I do this all the time.
Me: Really?...  So I guess you find it successful then? (There’s no way this guy is successful…he’s about as cute as a old brick wall)
Him: Ya I have success here, but if you really want to get some good results, you need to go online.
Me: Hmm?
Him: Oh ya!  I’ll tell you all the best sites!  Here, write them down… He then proceeded to tell me how amazing internet dating is and had me write down 3 of the top sites (which were all free sites by the way)
Me: Um, wow.  That’s great.  Thanks for the info…

So there it is folks.  I shit you not.  I could not make this stuff up.


Saturday, November 20, 2010

New job - check. New boy - umm.. no.

I know I should be updating my blog a little more.. Like really, it’s been a serious couple of weeks since I’ve put the pen to paper (or finger to keyboard.. same diff). 
I think over the past couple weeks I’ve deluded myself into thinking that this is a blog about dating… And I’m in a little dry spell (but more of that later).  However, when I think back to the purpose if this blog it’s to learn more about myself and things that I may have known or may not have.
That being said, I can now blog about my new job!  For the last year and half I’ve been working as a sales rep for a Fortune 500 Brand through an agency.  It was a great job and everything, but just wasn’t my bag.  Not enough of a challenge and overall just didn’t satisfy me.  So I started looking for a new job and landed one a couple weeks ago! I decided to go back to the marketing industry so I’m in Event Marketing again. This week was my first week and so far so good!  I said I wanted a challenge and to be able to think critically and problem solve and that’s exactly what I got.  I haven’t worn heels in forever and after this first week, my feet are killing me!  Also, I’m pretty exhausted after re-learning how to work 50+ hours a week.

So it was a little nerve racking on the drive there on the first day… Kinda brought me back to the first day of grade 9… Like.., OK, so do I have to sleep with the seniors to fit in and get with the “cool crowd”?  
Clearly the answer to getting ahead in this company wasn’t to sleep with the seniors (a.k.a. management), but to buckle down and work hard.  (Not that the aforementioned didn’t cross my mind.. joking!!..)
But overall, this first week has gone really well and I’m happy with the change of pace.

Now on to the dating scene… I mentioned in a prior post that my girlfriend was supposed to set up me up on a blind date.  She did set me up and it was scheduled to happen actually tonight.  Prior to that I did get a text from him a week before our date:
Him: Hey, its ____, Danielle’s friend.  How are you?
Me: Hey good to hear from you. I’m doing well thanks, u?
Him: I’m doing well, fairly busy.  Next weekend is still over a week away,  I just wanted to touch base
Me: Ya for sure.  I’m going home this w/e so that’s why it’s kind of a no-go.  But I’m in for next Sat. Do you have something spectacular planned? (No pressure or anything)
Him: Ha, no pressure at all! But no, I don’t have anything planned yet… Did you just use the word spectacular?
Me: I did indeed.  Too much? Lol. Ok, I’ll settle for dinner. Can’t blame a girl for trying, right?
Him: I’ll see what I can do J
So it was all good until he texted me earlier this week saying that he has to postpone our date because he has something to take care of.  Was I a little disappointed? Sure.  But my only hope is that he postpones until post-movember.  I just can’t get into a guy with a stache…

Other than that, it’s a complete dry spell.  On the upside though I do have an interesting “date(s)” lined up for next Saturday… more details to follow J

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Slumber Paarty!!

When you think about, when was the last time you and your friends got together and had a slumber party? A real one.  Not the one where your friend came home and crashed on your couch with the catch-of-the-day.  Years ago, right?  In the days of the board game Girl Talk?  Well my friends and I brought it back the other night.

We decided that it would be a good idea because one girl’s boyfriend is overseas for a month, and she’s the lonely lady with the cat right now.  Not good.  We did get together on a schoolnight though, so at least we’d keep it tame right?  No.

Here’s how the basic equation works out: 5 girls + 6 bottles + 1 board game + 0 boyfriends = chaos. Wonderful, real, genuine, screaming, laughing, chaos.

Starting with a litte dinner


The host with the toast


A sleepover isn't complete without someone dying their hair


Cutting said dyed hair though?  Now that's a new one...



But she like's it!! All smiles




Mmmm... time for some goodies



And now time for some ditry jokes about the finger...



Time to do that nails!



You don't know Jacques...


Nothin like a little late night texting...


PJ party!!



It was about this time that we decided to go to bed...


Thought of the night:  Gone are the days of Mike's Hard Lemonade, pizza delivery, and single available guys.  Welcome to the world of dinner parties, wine, and baggage.

Monday, October 25, 2010

I just LOVE this!

So it's Monday night re-run night on TV, so what to do other than find some good blogs to follow?? As I was skimming through, I found this one... Here's a snippit of "Alice's X's" blogpost... make sure to check her out!!

http://theboyfrienddrama.blogspot.com/



This is a major bugbear for me. The modern age has unleashed a whole new breed of man. Gone are the days of chest hair and stubble, replaced with manliner and manbags. These so called Metrosexuals are roaming the streets looking oh so chic with their designer haircuts and too tight jeans. Don’t get me wrong i love a man who knows how to dress well, but i’d rather date a slug than date someone who looks hotter than me. Think of all the bathroom time they take up just preening themselves and fake tanning their eyelids or whatever. Get a grip guys, i want a lumberjack not a ballerina. Grow some man hair you wimps.

Read more: http://theboyfrienddrama.blogspot.com/2010/08/whare-have-all-real-men-gone.html#ixzz13QajYrbb

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Progress Report

So it’s been just over a month and a half since the break-up.  I have to admit, at the risk of sounding insensitive, it feels like so much longer.  And I’m doing ok.
I think keeping a positive attitude, creating this blog and the project of finding new things to discover have certainly helped.  I think when we try to take the time to work on ourselves and dig deep, it can sometimes seem a little boring… “Hello?! Digging deep here and can’t find anything… Alright, that’s enough of that”.  I’ve found that there are so many distractions, which compared to doing the hard (some might say boring) work of “self discovery”, it’s almost always easier to give up and do something else.
However, over the past month, I’ve really tried to dedicate myself to being dedicated to me.  I’ve made lists and charts, scribbled down whatever I was thinking, written blog posts, participated in deep conversation, and talked to myself (yes, I just admitted that to the world).  The crazy part is it has actually helped.  Basically, the way I thought of it was this:  Imagine you were out on a blind date, and you could ask that person anything at all.  (ie: what is the most common emotion that you feel, what makes you want to cry, when was the last time you had not a care in the world, what are the really dirty ugly parts of yourself that nobody else knows, what quality to you have that you rarely show, etc.)  Once I started thinking of all the things that I wanted to know about someone, I asked them of myself.  And not just all questions that would make me think, but also questions that are really basic.. What’s my favourite colour, what do I love more the most in life, what’s my favourite genre of music, who are my true friends, etc.

Now, don’t get me wrong.. I’m not looking to achieve the esteemed Self-Actualization on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs or needs or anything.  I realize that discovering who you are is a life long journey and changes depending on what stage you’re currently at.  What I’m really looking to achieve is to know who I am right now.  I think I’ve made good progress.  In terms of being single however, there’ still some things to be figured out:
What I know:
·         how to be a girlfriend
·         I’m probably not ready to be a girlfriend
·         I want companionship
·         I don’t want to be a serial dater

What I don’t know:
·         how to date

This leaves me in a little bit of a pickle.  How to date?  The last time I was actively dating guys, was back in 2005 (prior to that, I was in college and was dating a guy for the first a year and half, and a different guy for the last half year).  So that means I was single from age 21-22.  Since then… you guessed it; in a freakin relationship.
So I did what any girl does when she’s faced with a problem that she can’t see the solution to – I talked to my girlfriends.  I asked each of them to tell me their top 3 tips for dating.  Here’s what came up:


· Never talk about ex’s (x3)

· Go in with an open mind (no assumptions) (x2)

· Be yourself (x2)

· Put out on the first date (x2)

· Have full confidence (even if you have to fake it) (X2)

· Don’t wear underwear

· Don’t speak of marriage or future plans

· Bathe and shave

· When there’s a lull in conversation ask him questions

· Don’t date just to date

· Watch for little signs... opening the door, etc.

· Show a little skin

· Don’t get too serious

· Dress comfortable but stylish

· Never date down

· Don’t waste your time if they’re not looking for the same thing you are

· Don’t kiss on the first date

· If you like him, when the bill comes, attempt to reach into your purse. If he likes you, and if he’s not cheap, he’ll pick it up.

· If you like him, talk about your past – but not too much!

· Have fun!

· Don’t over analyze anything post date

· Do something active on a first date

· Smile and be friendly without acting too eager

· Be ok with silences
So where does this leave me?  A new challenge perhaps?  Possibly a blind date?
I like it.  I’ll keep you posted.

      

Monday, October 18, 2010

Thought of the day...

To avoid feelings like that of the post below, here's an idea of how to avoid missing someone:

Don't stay home alone
.... on Friday night
.... with a bottle of wine
.... while watching 'Say Yes to the Dress'